What to do when you’re brokenhearted

by Apr 15, 2018

A heartbreak is one of the hardest and intense painful feelings a human being has to deal with in this life. You might think that this only relates to love. But also losing someone because of death can make you feel heartbroken.

Being broken-hearted makes your heart feel heavy and laden with sadness. It’s not easy mending a broken heart, but it will. Even though, you might think now that there’s no hope. That you won’t ever feel happy again, you will.

A broken heart is when a human being suffers from an emotional or physical loss. It’s a metaphor for the intense emotional feeling somebody feels at experiencing great longing.

 ~ Wikipedia

Recovering from a heartbreak (in love) is a process which takes time. Mostly we go through the following stages:

Denial: ‘’This can’t be the end, he/she will get back to me. We’re still meant to be together’’

  1. Anger: ‘’I hate him/her.’’
  2. Bargaining: ‘’Maybe if I did this different it would have worked.’’
  3. Depression: ‘’I will never get over this.’’
  4. Acceptance: ‘’It’s done. It’s over now.’’

For me it has been for about two years since my first real heartbreak and finally after all those tears I’ve shed and the pain I felt I can tell that I’m starting to move on. While I was trying to get over my heartbreak, one of my best friends passed away which made me feel heartbroken even more. I felt like it was the end of the world and I would never get over it. I didn’t want to go out or even talk to people. On most days, I just went to work and straight to home. I was distracted, tired and totally not myself. I didn’t know what to do with myself because I’ve never felt so emotional before in my life. But now I’m finally feeling a lot better.

‘’To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful.’’

 ~ Bess Myerson

Going through a heartbreak is difficult and not easy. There’s no quick way to stop your heart from hurting so much pain. But here’s a list with a few tips for you to get – hopefully – through it.

Take your time and go through it

I understand that for some of us with a broken heart it’s really hard to stand still and feel the pain. But it is really something you have to do. In fact: you have to grief in order to move on. Allow yourself to be sad for a long time and don’t be too hard on yourself. Find a place where you feel safe and let the tears flow. It won’t go away by just moving on. Eventually you’ll have to face your inner pain and it might kick in even harder.

You can close your eyes to the things you don’t want to see, but you can’t close your heart to  things you don’t want to feel.’’

~ Johnny Depp

Talk about it with someone you trust

Maybe you don’t want to talk because you’re not a big of a talker – like me. But talking about it can be very helpful.

Distract yourself

When I went through my heartbreak I just wanted to Netflix and do nothing else. I didn’t want to see any funny movie or series because I wasn’t in the mood to laugh. So, I started to watch movies and series which made me forget about anything else around me. In this period I’ve been watching lots of SCI-FI and war movies that really sucked me into the movie.

Search for some quotes

Quotes are a sayings that might express our feelings in a way we can’t express ourselves. Search for some quotes you can relate to. Write them down in a notebook or save them on your phone. Don’t just search for sad quotes, but also motivating and positive quotes to make you feel a little better.


In the beginning stage of your heartbreak you’ll listen to sad (love) songs with lyrics you can identify yourself with. But when you realize that you don’t want to listen to these kind of songs anymore as much as you did at the beginning of your heartbreak, you’ll realize that you just got a step closer to recovery.

Love again and keep believing in love

After your heart is bruised you have two choices: build an huge wall around your heart so no one can ever get in again. Or you can love again. Even though, love can cause you some much pain it is the most magical and beautiful thing in life.

Fight for the fairy tale. It does exist.

~ Joy F.

These were my tips for you to get through a heartbreak. Let me know in the comments if you’ve suffered from a broken heart and what your tips are.

‘Till next time!
~ Ashley Sharon


  1. Annie

    These are such valuable tips! Hope you’re doing well 🙂 x

  2. Tawnya

    Luckily I have never been super heartbroken over a relationship, probably because I don’t tend to let people in to protect myself. However, I’ve experienced heartache over losing important people in my life, and it definitely just takes time. It’s like an injury, it will heal with time but the scar remains.

    • Ashley Sharon

      Indeed, the scar remains and we’ll have to learn to live with it. Wish you all the best xx

  3. Carley

    Thank you for this beautiful and real post. Your honesty is going to help so many! I love the last tip about continuing to believe in love. xx

    • Ashley Sharon

      You’re welcome! xx

  4. bre

    such good ideas to work through being broken hearted! i hope your heart has healed =]


    • Ashley Sharon

      Thank you xx

  5. Jamie Lee valentine

    Hi je mag trots op je zelf zijn. Super mooi gedaan! Ga zo verder ✨ -xxx-


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