doing things alone

Why I do a lot of things alone

I love being alone. I’ve always been an outsider, on my own and introvert. That’s why I’m doing lots of things without being accompanied. It doesn’t mean I don’t have any friends. Sometimes I want to do something none of my friends like or they already have other plans while I don’t.

Take the journey even if it means alone.

The first time doing something all by yourself is kinda scary. The first thing I did alone was going to the movies. It was a movie I really wanted to see but none of my friends were down for it. So, I just decided to just go because otherwise I would never see that movie. I just went to the cinema and I was scared that people would stare at me, thinking I didn’t had any friends or my date wasn’t showing up. But nobody said something weird to me or stared at me. It was a good experience because I didn’t had to deal with anyone. I could go in last minute whenever I wanted to go. I did that several times and became really comfortable with going alone to the cinema.

A while later I decided to take it a to the next level and booked a few days to Paris, all by myself. I was a little anxious about it. A girl, alone, in a big city. Would I enjoy myself? Isn’t it lonely not having someone to talk to or share this with? But it was one of the things I really wanted to do and my friends didn’t had the time when I had or liked Paris. It was such a great experience. I never regret going all by myself. I could go where I wanted, whenever I wanted and how long I wanted. After getting back I decided to do that more often. Because I like travelling, seeing different places and cultures.

You must want to spend the rest of your life with yourself first.

Doing things alone makes you stronger, you get to know yourself more and you don’t have to depend on others. You also enjoy things more intense because you’re not distracted by mentioning something is so beautiful to one another or just chit chatting all the time while you’re at a beautiful place. When you’re alone you can really absorb the surroundings in your mind and lose yourself in your own thoughts. If you learn to really enjoy that, being alone can be so soothing.

Being alone has a power that very few people can handle.

I don’t like depending on others. Because if I do, I wouldn’t do things I actually want to do in my life. You are in charge of your own life and you only live once. I would miss so many things in my life if I don’t just think ‘fuck it, I just go myself if no one wants to join me’. Besides, I don’t have many people around me I want to share things with. Somethings I just really want to experience myself to enjoy  things better.

Sun is alone too, but it still shines.

If you are having trouble doing things without having anybody beside you but you do have things you want to do but you can’t find somebody to join you, you can start easy. You can start taking a walk outside alone. Go to a park and enjoy everything that is happening around you. Going to a different city by yourself can be something to start with too. You’ll be completely anonymous in another city which makes it easier to be alone. You don’t have to be afraid running into somebody you know when you’re alone and being afraid what they would think about you.

The next step is maybe going to a movie. You don’t have anybody to go with? Just go. You wouldn’t be distracted by someone else because they talk to you the entire movie.

When you’re more comfortable with the above doing alone. You can take it a step further and go dining somewhere. This could be kinda hard. I haven’t done it myself too, in my own country. But it’s definitely on my to do list.

And maybe the biggest step in the journey of getting comfortable in doing things alone is to go on a holiday. It is the ultimate test in ‘being alone’. For some it is a step too far but I think I can really manage this and wouldn’t mind being alone for longer than a week.

Just enjoy life and do thing alone. It’s your life and it would be too bad if you can’t do the things you actually want to do but it’s holding you back because no one wants to join you.

Do you do things alone? Is it a huge step for you to do something alone? Share your experiences or tips down below in the comments.

‘Till next time!
Xoxo
~ Ashley Sharon

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