2017 is already more than 2 months behind us and I think it’s time now to sum up the 5 most important things I’ve learned the past year. It feels like I’ve made it to adulthood and changed personally in 2017.
I think 2017 was one of the most intense years ever. So much has happened and I’ve had so many downs, I mean like real deep downs and very high ups. Mostly, I’ve learned much about my personal life and I’ve changed in some ways. Here’s what I’ve learned.
1. Life is short
One of the first things I had to deal with in 2017 was passing away one of my best friends. She was only 23 years old and it made me realize that you should not take life for granted. It sounds a little cliché maybe, but it is really true. My friend passing away made me think that life could be over in a blink of an eye. I’m living my life more how I want to, do things I want to and what makes me happy. Only by that kind of living you’ll live a happy life.
2. Be patient and have faith
I can be very impatient and when I want things to happen I want it to happen now. But sometimes, things take time. You have to let things go and let it develop. If it is supposed to happen it will happen if not so, it was not meant for you. You got to keep believing in what you want and put faith in destiny.
3. Never give up
In 2016 I actually I had to graduate for my study but unfortunately due personal circumstance my study had been delayed. Which I really hated and blamed myself for. I was very angry at myself that I didn’t graduate. When my friend passed away I became very down and depressed; I didn’t want to do anything anymore and almost gave up on my study because I thought I wasn’t capable of graduating. But after a few months I decided to go for it and fight for my goal. In October 2017 I finally graduated and I was so happy and proud of myself.
4. Let go of ‘’friends’’
I found out that friendship is a two way road and it has to come from both sides. I am kinda the person that’s always giving it all and always willing to give everybody unlimited chances. This gave people the chance to take advantage of me. To keep everybody happy I always want to changes myself to fit in. Sometimes you have to accept that your personalities don’t really match and people don’t change because you want them to. Real friends will accept every little thing about you, even your flaws. In the end; nobody is perfect. Losing friends is a part of life and don’t feel bad because you have lost so many friends. It is just the way it goes. Everybody changes through life and sometimes you come to the point where you and your friend are not on the same page anymore.
5. Do things alone
Sometimes I feel lonely but I want to do things in life. Going to some movies or go to the museum. But none of my friends wanted to go with me. I though it was stupid to go alone to the movies. You don’t want people looking at you like ‘’look she is alone, she’s probably got no friends’’. You know, in the end your life is about you. Only you can make your life fun and nobody else. If you want to see a movie and nobody wants to go with you, just go by yourself. Who cares? Maybe you’ll meet other people if not; you just saw the movie you really wanted to see and you’ve had a wonderful night with yourself.
I think all of those points has to do with the first one. That one had such an impact on me. I thought I’ve had seen it all. But when you go through something like this on a young age you’re going to start thinking about life. I started to think about things that were really important to me. For example before that happened I should never go alone to Paris or to a movie. Because I was too afraid of what people would think about me. Society teaches us standards in life – like the more friends you have the more popular you are. When you’re seen alone you get the label of a loner. Everybody wants to live up to society’s standards and I’ve let that go a little more in 2017.
What did you learn in 2017? Please let me know in the comments.
‘till next time!